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Heather Benek


January 16, 2023

New Year. Same You, Different Choices

Happy New Year! But why does everything feel the same?

‘Cause YOU’RE the same. To make change, we must make different choices. Let me give you one simple tip to create more space in your life: say goodbye to the excess sh*t in your life. You are a grown A$$ person and you decide what matters to you. I’m talking about activities, people, and stuff in your life that no longer serves you. I give you permission to lovingly say “thank you” and “no thank you”. Activities: If being part of toastmasters, your boss’s random nights out or even volunteering are weighing you down, let that sh*t go. There are millions of ways for each of us to spend our time, it might as well be doing things that fit in our value system and that we love. We want to go towards things that bring up a “hell yes” in us. Doing things because you “have to” or from a sense of obligation just weighs you down. Let the activities you do choose to participate in fuel and fulfill you! I am by no means recommending ditching all activities and becoming a hermit crab, but recognize what drains you and what energizes you. Then act on that information. People: I’m all for loving everyone. I support giving people the benefit of the doubt. I can easily get behind compassionately taking time with people. AND, there’s just no remedy for toxic people. We all know the people in our lives who drain us. It is an act of love to ourselves and the others to lovingly create boundaries and take space from those who drain us. I’m sorry, old man at the gas station, but your soap box is not my theater today. Even if you are my uncle. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and encourage you to be your very best self. Stuff: You know that china set you inherited from your great aunt? Or the clothes that you wore 20 years ago? Or all those magazines that you’re definitely going to go back and read some day? They’re weighing you down and cluttering your life. And my dear, your life is far too precious to be cluttered. Your time is much too valuable to be spent caring for material things that you don’t use, love AND need. Seriously. What if everything you owned fit into all three categories of ‘ use, love and need’? What would your life look like then?

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